Recognize and confront reality. Things are not okay.
Why? If they ARE okay.. then you don’t need a change.. but awareness is the beginning..
Decide that you will be different… Say it out loud. Pray about it. Keep saying it. Keep discussing it.
Learn how to be “different”. Study who is doing it well… and document what they are doing that is different from me? Where am I aligned.. Develop a priority model to enable you to qualify and “score” activities and plans against your new “different:
Enlist friends and colleagues as accountability partners.. neutral voices… to help you assess progress.. honestly.. objectively.
Measure EVERYTHING that you identified in your learning stage… Constantly reevaluate priorities and actions against results.. Is the needle moving? Be prepared for successes and setbacks.
Keep and INVEST - MAINTAIN - RETIRE list… for friends.. activities.. food even jobs, careers, and hobbies.. Your success is about what you say NO to.. It is not possible to do everything.. and/or be everything.. FOCUS FOCUS FOCUS… and then adjust..
Repeat all of the steps… every day… every week.. every month? … and check progress.. Celebrate your successes.. and learn from your failures…